I was in a Moose Herd session the other day, and someone brought up the challenge of teaching as a coach. That people had to want to be taught. That they had to be curious to be taught. They had to be vulnerable to say—I don’t know, can you help me? And that if they didn’t adopt this empty vessel posture, it was nearly impossible to teach them.
Some of the phrases we shared around how to ask for or detect their receptiveness included—
Are you curious about this?
Can I teach you about agile estimation?
What do you know about agile?
I think you misunderstand the agile mindset; can I tell you what it is?
All of these are sort of binary, yes/no questions. I would argue that they put whoever you’re asking them of on defense. From a power dynamics perspective, you’re saying—I know, and you don’t. Can I bring you up to my level…yes, or no?
And I would argue this probably isn’t the best first way to engage someone in their learning.